the problem with polynormativity

This is just… awesome. Wow.

Sex Geek

Polyamory is getting a lot of airtime in the media these days. It’s quite remarkable, really, and it represents a major shift over the last five to ten years.

The problem—and it’s hardly surprising—is that the form of poly that’s getting by far the most airtime is the one that’s as similar to traditional monogamy as possible, because that’s the least threatening to the dominant social order.

Ten years ago, I think my position was a lot more live-and-let-live. You know, different strokes for different folks. I do poly my way, you do it your way, and we’re all doing something non-monogamous so we can consider ourselves to have something in common that’s different from the norm. We share a certain kind of oppression, in that the world doesn’t appreciate or value non-monogamy. We share relationship concerns, like logistics challenges and time management and jealousy. So we’re all in this…

View original post 6,142 more words

Stretching My Legs

It’s been a long time since I’ve written anything.  The post below, written off the Erotic Notebook’s prompt, WankWednesday, is probably the first bit of erotica I’ve even considered in the better part of six months.  It feels a bit stilted even to me, but there’s no sense waiting for the perfect story before I start posting again, and well, that perfect story is more likely to come along if I actually practice this craft from time to time.  I hope you’ll bear with me as I shake some of the rust off my typing fingers.